My 101 of Handling Pain

In every walk of life, there are things that we cannot avoid, not because we are destined to face it but maybe it’s just a part of it. One of the things that are inevitable is getting hurt or feeling pain. To put it simply, pain is when you lost someone you love, when someone put you in the friendzone, when you’re walking and you accidentally bumped the pinky toe on something hard, when you sent a long text message and the answer was “K” and etc. I can enumerate a lot of things here but I’m sure you know what I am talking about.

In order to ease the pain, we use painkillers, Mefenamic, Brandy, Food, Beer, or sometimes we call our buddies to provide the best medicine, “Laughter”. But does the pain really taken away? Did it really heal? A painkiller doesn’t take away the pain, it hides it, and it temporarily suppresses the feeling of getting hurt.

Maybe it is really an ingredient of life. On a movie titled Ex-with-benefits mentioned that “We need to feel the pain in order for us to know that we are still alive” another one is a latin quotation from The Walking Dead says that “dolor hic tibi proderit olim”  which translated means, “Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you.”

So if you right there, reading this article and you still have a pain somewhere within you. Don’t resist it. Just accept it, let it flow, let it be part of your life and let the pain make something better of yourself.


For a bonus, I learned an exercise from a certified hypnotherapist, not hypno the rapist ok? This exercise might help you accept the pain and let it pass through you.

(Read first the steps before performing it if alone. Better Performed with a partner, one is reading the steps one by one while the other is performing the exercise)


1.Rate your pain, on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, how much pain do you have there?

2.Close your eyes and imagine that pain, the scenario, the moment etc. ( I’m sure it hurts)

3.Try to relax close your eyes and imagine a metal screen in front of you. Just like this one.

4.If you are now seeing the screen, focus on your breathing and breathe normally, (Inhale...Exhale... Inhale...Exhale...)

5.Then visualize that your body and the metal screen is moving towards each other until the screen and our body is one. You are now a metal screen

6.Feel the wind passing through you, to the metal screen, feel the breeze passing through your body, you are not resisting it just letting it passed through you.

7.As you imagine that. Visualize the scenario, or the moment you felt the pain, what happened, how did it happen, watch it happening in front of you. ( the scenario you imagine in step 2)

8.As you visualize the scenario, imagine that it is being blown by the wind towards you. The metal screen. The wind is going to the pain, the idea of it, the feeling of it that you have there, blown towards you getting closer and closer. Until it starts passing through you. The metal screen

9.Let it pass, don’t resist, just accept it. Passing through you and you can see it leaving your back, being blown by the wind

10.Rate your pain, on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, how much pain was left?

11.If it lessened, repeat the steps until it becomes zero. If it is effective then you can share this post, and if not you can still share it, leave a comment and I really appreciate constructive criticism